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Turn on? Or turn off??

When it comes to sexual turn on's, men and women are very different. It is not a myth that women are attracted to a man who is comfortable with his emotions. It is also true that many women are on the hunt for an attractive man who knows how to treat a lady right! A man wants a lady in public and a slut in the bedroom.....Its pretty much the same in the lifestyle. Some couples look for playmates like them selves, while others are attracted to complete opposites.  Whatever sparks your trigger is a go as long as all are comfy. 

Some couples have a "take it for the team" plan - to each their own. I think at one time or another we have all "taken one for the team" ......some maybe more than once.  Its whatever works for you....you know later I am gonna dish about our "taking it for the team" experiences...LOL  Oh hell yes!


Considering that it only takes between ninety seconds and four minutes to decide if we're attracted to someone.  I have to admit, I can decide if I am into someone at first sight.  But what can I say...I am kinda easy like that.  lol  I do think that couples learn or maybe already know what their spouse is attracted to...I know my hubby knows the type I am looking to get fucked by as do I know his tastes.  But..every once in awhile you meet a couple who you may not have an instinct attraction to however after getting to know them you wanna do them in the worse way.....then there are those couples you just have to do, but after you do them.....mmmmmmm...not so into them....lol  Even though it seems that the lifestyle community is a small one...there are enough couples to go around.

We talk alot about what turns us on & turns us off...just talking about it makes us hot!  So....I decided to post our "Turn Ons' & "Turn Offs"...take note all you fuckable couples out there.....

Him - Ah hell.  No matter what I write in this section, I’m a-gonna catch hell from one side or the other.  There’s no winning in the Superbowl of public opinion when it comes to what excites a man and what puts the kibosh on the party.  So please take this as my disclaimer that the following is nothing more than the Get it Ons and Get the Hell Outs for me and noone else.  So if yall don’t like what ya read, I got two words for ya… Suck it!!

 

Since I’m a sunny day kinda fella, I’m gonna start with the turn ons, in no particular order…

1.       A woman that swallows!  Show me a man that says it don’t matter if his gal swallows and I’ll introduce you to a liar – to both you and himself.  There’s just something special about a woman that will suck you to the perfecting end… blowing your wad right past that oh so talented tongue.  That brings me to #2 on the list…

2.       Nothing like a woman who loves giving head.  If the time and place are right, just get into my pants, pull it out and get to blowin!  Take charge and leave nothing to doubt that you want that man.

3.       Sexy lingerie… nothing in the world like leaving something to the imagination – even if it’s next to nothing.  Sure there’s a time and place for the most beautiful naked woman, but until that moment arrives – even pasties on the nipples and a be-dazzled pussy can get a man’s juices flowing.  Oh yeah.

4.       Damnation buy I love a clean pussy… and not just hygienically clean, but clean shaved or waxed.  I prefer shaved personally or newly waxed.  I’ve got floss in the medicine cabinet, thanks.

5.       Here’s the most equal-opportunity Turn On of the list… the woman that lets me know that she wants me.  Playing shy has it’s time and place, in church or at the bowling alley.  At the club or house party, foreplay starts with crossing the threshold and walking through the door.  So don’t pretend you aren’t there for a reason.  If you want it, let him know in a very obvious way!

Now for the dark side of sexual play… the things than can take Oh Yeah to ah hell in no time at all…

1.       Sasquatch crotch – I mean seriously folks?  In this day and age, is it really necessary to tell ya that if you’re gonna play you need to put your best and CLEANEST foot forward.  That ain’t your spouse you’re bedding – that’s someone who has other lovely ladies to choose from.  I’m not even gonna discuss those ladies who need a facial shave. Eeyuck!!  And guys, for heaven’s sake, do you really have to make the lady identify the meat from the gristle?  Clean up to lay down, PLEASE!

2.       Reliance on liquid courage – We all like a drink now and again.  Hell, some of us even need a little something to take the edge off so that we can relax and “let the good times roll.”  But if we have to hold you up so you can make it to the playhouse, you may not be as comfortable playing as you would like to think.  If you’re so lit that you may puke, plan on an evening alone – or at least not with me.

3.       And for God’s sake, do NOT ask whether your partner’s parents are into oral sex (or any other kind for that matter).  Talk about a buzz kill… sheesh!!

4.       Strange odors – if you don’t smell right, do you REALLY expect me to dine at the “Y” or dip my wick in there?  Come on!  You know if something isn’t right down there. Take care of it, then come back.  Odds are we’ll still be there.

5.       And last on the list, but probably should have been first (were I putting this in any particular order), not respecting the relationship of the married couple or the committed couple.  You think you’re more important or have more influence over me than my wife – well, you’d best get to steppin.  ‘Cause I will shut you down in a New York minute!  And fellas… do not make the mistake and think you can play such a card to put yourself ahead of me with my wife.  Our relationship is the foundation of our involvement in the lifestyle.  You disrespect that relationship, and you best start shopping your wares elsewhere.  ‘Nuff said.

Her - So here is the thing...when you are in the lifestyle you are not looking for a replacement hubby/wifey - if you are then you need to get the fuck out of the lifestyle NOW! 

I could make a list of all my turn-ons but it would go on forever!  There is always something special about almost everyone I meet - some I just want to fuck more than others..hehe  I know for sure if someone is fuckable - guy or chick just by seeing them....of course they may not be into me - that's that sad part about the lifestyle - not everyone you are into shares your desire...oh well...move on...lol Its their smile, or sexy eyes; I am also a hands & forearm kinda gal...there has to be some sort of physical attraction to even spark my interest.

I wanna fuck you if...
~ you can make me laugh -  a brain and a sense of humor are real turn ons. A dim-witted dullard gets boring fast. I  want my fire lit by someone who can tell a good joke and can can challenge me every step of the way baby!

~you are not afraid to take charge - if you wanna throw me up against the wall and fuck the hell out of me - just say so....make a move - let me know ya wanna do me.  That's a turn on. No wimping around wondering if I am into it - just ask!

~you can be dominated - Oh yeah!  Surrender some of that power. I like to take control sometimes and feels sexy when a man is ready and willing to respond to all of my demands. And yes.....I am a freak!!!  So smile & take it - you will love it!!!

~you are fresh as a daisy - Personal hygiene is crucial. Shave. Shower. Man scape.  btw - love a partner who smells good..just sayin

~ more BIG turn ons 
.....talk  dirty to me while we are doing the dee
.....good kissers -ALL OVER
.....look at me when we are fucking-sometimes
.....loved to be undressed - slow & sexy
.....touch me & tease me - PLEASE!
.....interlock your fingers w/ me while we fuck  - OMG

No way in hell am I gonna fuck you if....
~I don't like ya!  If you are a drunken ass with bad breath.  If you slobber when you kiss or act like I owe it to you - Oh hell no!  If you smell funky (Ben Gay included) or if you insist on wearing your sock when we are having sex - we will finish before we start. And another thing - I hate comb overs -and hairy balls, dirty fingernails & boogers...just sayin. 

So now you know what turns us on & off - what are yours?? 
Care to share?????

      

 

quelle nuit putain .....

WAFN  - WOW!     WHAT A FUCKIN NIGHT!

 

Last night was “commando” night at the swingers club we frequent.  Yes, of course my hubby went commando, however I was dragging along “Aunt Flo” so my “who who “was covered – no one was going down below unless they wanted to floss their teeth with my tampon string – I know …gross…but its life!

I have to say there are nights we walk into the club and don’t know a sole, nor do we meet anyone – we just go up to one of the playrooms and do the nasty together which is always a guaranteed O…more like a hell of a lot of O’s!!!   Oh hell yes! Then there are those night like last night – WAFN!!!!!!

We had been invited to join in with another couple (who are a hoot in & out of the sack), they had a planned play date with another couple, but could always fit us in…so to speak LOL.  So…we called another set of friends  whom  hubby likes to do the lady…over and over and over …..she seems to be up for it  hehe…..she is HOT!  I have done her….which that is an awesome story for another time…..but let’s just say I am the best she has ever had!!!!!  LOL ……just sayin.

Ya know there are those times when if you really want something you just have to ask for it & accept the answer….well… I am somewhat of a voyeur – yes its true….I will admit it!  Well  we met a hot couple a few months back, not long after meeting them I told both of them I really wanted to watch them “do it”….have sex, fuck, whatever.  They just laughed me off…..so my little brain started thinking & I thought I would soooooo do a threesome with them!  …just saying.  So I ask & they said YES!  Yippee!!!

I have to tell you for as worldly and sexual as I think I am, I have never been in a threesome with another couple….matter of fact I don’t know if I have ever been in a threesome with two guys…..hmmmm…I am gonna have to work on that!   I didn’t really know what to expect or what I should or could do.  The lady is not really into chick, so I wasn’t sure what she would allow me to do………let me put it out there  - I am a lady who loves the ladies….I can eat pussy with the best of them…have been known to put a few men to shame…just sayin

 

After being somewhat sociable I got the wink & the nod and I knew the party was gonna start.  The tree of us headed up to the playrooms.   Really if you think about it  - it wasn’t a threesome…its was more like a 2.5some due to Aunt Flo hanging out below…I only think I took off was my shoes (great shoes by the way!) and a top…… I just kinda sat back to see how this would play out.

Like I said they are a very sexy couple, I had been with the fella  & enjoyed him thoroughly – so I knew this was going to be hot!  I watch a married couple enjoy each other’s bodies, the way his hand gently glided over her smooth, the sounds of her moaning while he fingers her – I could hear her enjoyment in her moans. I watched as his soft touch turned to hard & fast as if he could read her every move to know exactly what & how she wanted to be pleasured.

I watched as he licked her pussy, while playing with her gorgeous tits.  The expression on her face as she experienced the many stages of foreplay & orgasm amazed me, I have never really watch another person’s expressive enjoyment  -  the way her fingers tightened  & flexed as he fit the right spots, & the sound of her breathing , and moaning as she came over & over.   I went into this thinking it was going to be a somewhat of a sexual pleasurable free for all – lack of a better description…..however it was so much more,  I was truly moved by the connection this couple shared. You could feel the intensity of their relationship. I felt like I was intruding their the passion for each other; as if I was an invasion, can’t really say I was a distraction – I sucked some dick & some boobies – for the most part I just watched.

Isn’t it crazy that we go into something for one reason or another & come of out if with a completely different perspective?  Not sure if the three of us will ever do it again – I do know they are an awesome, sensual couple who are hot as hell!  I thank them both for allowing me a glimpse into their world.

 

Time to get back to the party……

At the bar area a couple of our friends had gathered & of course we welcomed and “newbies” …especially the ones that didn’t scare away easily….there have been a few.LOL  We only bite the first time….except for me I bite all the fuckin time…just sayin.

 

To make a long story short of small gathering of 6 soon turned to a gathering of 20 plus drunken over sexed people who just wanna have fun!  And we did!   In a wicked bad way!  Our night included a gal laying on the table while I sucked one of her boobies and yes I rubber her clit while her hubby fingered her till she squirted….I don’t mean just a little…this chick and squirt a stream across the room – no joke…..if you are gonna muff dive with this chick ya better bring some goggles & a snorkel!  Talk about bringing in the crowd..lol

After the water works were over I found myself with a cat of nine tails (red leather to boot) in my hand and lets sat on some mighty fine bare asses….damn!   I mean DAMN!!!!   …just sayin    Before I knew it there were 6 guys naked on the bar top while six women (myself included) sucked their dicks.  Every few minutes or so someone would  yell switch and all the gals would rotate to the dick to their right…..I made it almost all the way around to the end….however I did cheap a little….I was enjoying on falla’s dick a little longer than allowed – but what the hell – I am a rule bender  (notice I did not say rule breaker)  He was cute & he had a very nice dick that fit in my mouth perfect…..I should have gotten his name…just sayin  lol

One of the guys had a huge did – way bigger than my mouth could handle – I did my best – not sure my best was good enough….maybe someday I can try it again….and again at least until I get it right.  He did have a nice one – he told me did – but then don’t all guys think they have nice ones?  The question is – does he know how to use it?  I am thinking I may just want to find out for myself….a time or two  hehehe

 

As the evening starts to wind down & the crowd seems to be getting smaller I noticed a couple of newbie couples at the bar – hmmmm……well I decided to work my way over  to introduce myself & my gang.  Lol   What fun!   Is there anything better than the sight of a bald shinny head between your legs?  I think not – but since Aunt Flo was with me I had to behave….but I will let you know…just saying. 

Again….WAFN!!!!.........just sayin

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rules rules rules.....

Most couples set up rules for themselves so that each partner understands what is and is not acceptable. This is an excellent idea, especially for beginning couples to safeguard against hurting someone's feelings. Rules can be anything from no oral, to no pain. Whatever each partner is comfortable (or uncomfortable) with. Rules should be explained to any couple that you plan to be with, they need to know what is expected. Don't be afraid to change your rules as you experience the lifestyle more and more. Most couples start out with a few rules, and then they change and change again.

Hubby - Rules in the lifestyle are fluid and evolving, mostly because you can’t predict what may you may encounter during your escapades.  So you have to be prepared for the predictable, and how you’re going to deal with the unforeseen.

I’ll start with a couple of our down and dirty, no shit, don’t cross that line rules.  1 – Protection is nonnegotiable.  No swim cap, no getting’ in the pool – plain and simple.  And 2 – We don’t play alone.  If one is out of town, just pretend we’re both unavailable – because we are.  Rules like these are the lines in the sand that represent the baseline for protecting each other and the relationship.  Sure, you may not feel the need for such fundamental limits.  The lifestyle is not the same for each couple (or individual for that matter) that chooses to open the door to their world a crack wider than others.  As a result, the rules will be very subjective from an external perspective – but VERY objective for the life partners living with the rules they agree upon.

We also have some rules that have arisen from experiences in the lifestyle – both positive and negative, as well as our personal development through life’s journey individually and as a couple.  One rule that we have come to employ is that kids in the area means “vanilla only.”  No lifestyle play “to protect the innocent,” so to speak.  Another example would be that if it hasn’t been discussed, it’s a no-go until the couple has time ALONE to talk about the unforeseen question and agree upon a common response.  In this flexible rules area you may include rules with the partner couple – rules specific to interaction between the whole group, not just the committed couple.  Seating at restaurants or riding in each others’ cars for example.  Those situations may not matter to either couple, but comfort and discretion are evolving elements of the lifestyle.

Here are two NO SHIT rules that I think applies, regardless of who you are or how long you’ve been in the lifestyle :

·         My spouse is MY spouse, not yours.  Do not attempt to exert influence that crosses the line between married couple and play partners.  The committed relationship is first and foremost.

·         You hurt my spouse, physically, emotionally or mentally, and we’re through with you.  This is not a permanent arrangement – there are conditions.  Remember that.

Rules are created and implemented for a variety of reasons – most importantly that inviolate preservation of the committed relationship as the most important and sacred. Adherence to the agreed upon rules helps maintain the trust between the spouses or committed partners that makes lifestyle involvement possible.

Wifey -  I have been more of the rule follower than the rule maker...well.....I have to admit I like to push the limits & tap dance around the line.....let me tell you it has gotten me into      trouble more than once.  I really do try to follow all the rules we have set up....

Our rules have been modified over the years due to experiences we ahve had.  The first few years we had lots of rules....looking back all those does & don't kinda took the fun out of it.  So after several long conversations & many years we have come to a very doable agreement.

Big rules - No condom - No Sex!  No PDA!  No Drama!

There is one thing you should never forget as you enter this lifestyle and grow with your partner. Your spouse is your lifemate, your new friends are playmates. You have decided to build & spend your life with your spouse. Your playmates are for you to enjoy & play with. You should never try to get between your playmates, and you should never ever let your playmates get between you and your lifemate. Regarding your newfound friends as playmates, highlights the fun recreational activity that swinging is.

.... il commence par une "hey que pensez-vous? ......"

....it begins with a "hey what do you think?......"

 Wifey - I'm pretty sure I was the one who first mentioned the idea of swinging to my hubby.  It's been like 9 years ago..more lthan likely when we were in the sack having sex..or in the aftreglow. Not really sure why or what made me mention it..just did.  I  had previously dabbled in the lifestyle, so I kinda knew about it a little.  I thought it would be a fun & sexy way to meet new folks, have some naughty fun....watch my hubby do other chicks - which btw is hot!

We found a website - created a profile - sent our friend requests and before ya knew it we were meeting a couple for our first "Couples Date"  It was so exciting - we were like little kids - all gitty, we were nervous, yet excited.....  

 We met for dinner, and then  hung out in the parking lot for a few minutes saying goodbye.  I remember  the guy putting his hand on my lower back under my shirt  - I was thinking wow & at the same time I was a bit uncomforatable  - my hubby was right there - just felt odd.  He on the other hand had the other chick sitting on the tail gate standing between her legs sucking face... again HOT!

We spent lots of fun times with this couple - they are such a wonderful (in & outta the sack) couple - they spoiled us for sure!  After all this time - we would still do them!  Oh hell yes!!!

Hubby- Wow!  How do I explain those initial feelings as we took those first, excited, tentative steps into the lifestyle?  Butterflies causing jitters like those from when you lost your virginity.  The nervousness of that first kiss, knowing you were kissing someone else and your spouse/partner was watching.  The jealousy of watching your spouse pick out date clothes, knowing he/she was being uber-selective for the purpose of attracting someone else’s attention.

I remember when my wife first raised the question of the lifestyle with me.  We were in California, and I thought, “really?  Is this really happening?  Oh the hell yeah!!”  Not because she isn’t my life and love, but because how often do we get to peek through that locked door, once it’s closed and secured by love and commitment? 

Yes, excitement is the very first emotion that screams to the fore.  So much excitement, in fact, that it’s easy to overlook fundamental blocks upon which to build the playhouse you’re so eager to use with your soon-to-be new friends.  Don’t let the excitement cause you to put the cart ahead of the horse, as much fun as the lifestyle can bring – talking about limits before play can make a world of difference, all for the better!

Our first experience was dinner with a couple we’d found on a lifestyle-friendly website in the local area.  We hit it off right from the very beginning.  The excitement urging that first kiss was like busting your cherry all over again.  Leaning in for the taste of that first kiss… the jitters that she had to feel coming from my very core… Damn!

I’m not going to elaborate, but I will say that playing with a masseuse absolutely ROCKS!!

What made it all the more exciting, and still does to this day, is talking about the escapade with my wife afterwards.  The event may be over, but the excitement and fun lingers  - even better because the most important person in my life is sharing it with me.  THAT’S what the lifestyle can bring.  Oh, yeah!