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rules rules rules.....

Most couples set up rules for themselves so that each partner understands what is and is not acceptable. This is an excellent idea, especially for beginning couples to safeguard against hurting someone's feelings. Rules can be anything from no oral, to no pain. Whatever each partner is comfortable (or uncomfortable) with. Rules should be explained to any couple that you plan to be with, they need to know what is expected. Don't be afraid to change your rules as you experience the lifestyle more and more. Most couples start out with a few rules, and then they change and change again.

Hubby - Rules in the lifestyle are fluid and evolving, mostly because you can’t predict what may you may encounter during your escapades.  So you have to be prepared for the predictable, and how you’re going to deal with the unforeseen.

I’ll start with a couple of our down and dirty, no shit, don’t cross that line rules.  1 – Protection is nonnegotiable.  No swim cap, no getting’ in the pool – plain and simple.  And 2 – We don’t play alone.  If one is out of town, just pretend we’re both unavailable – because we are.  Rules like these are the lines in the sand that represent the baseline for protecting each other and the relationship.  Sure, you may not feel the need for such fundamental limits.  The lifestyle is not the same for each couple (or individual for that matter) that chooses to open the door to their world a crack wider than others.  As a result, the rules will be very subjective from an external perspective – but VERY objective for the life partners living with the rules they agree upon.

We also have some rules that have arisen from experiences in the lifestyle – both positive and negative, as well as our personal development through life’s journey individually and as a couple.  One rule that we have come to employ is that kids in the area means “vanilla only.”  No lifestyle play “to protect the innocent,” so to speak.  Another example would be that if it hasn’t been discussed, it’s a no-go until the couple has time ALONE to talk about the unforeseen question and agree upon a common response.  In this flexible rules area you may include rules with the partner couple – rules specific to interaction between the whole group, not just the committed couple.  Seating at restaurants or riding in each others’ cars for example.  Those situations may not matter to either couple, but comfort and discretion are evolving elements of the lifestyle.

Here are two NO SHIT rules that I think applies, regardless of who you are or how long you’ve been in the lifestyle :

·         My spouse is MY spouse, not yours.  Do not attempt to exert influence that crosses the line between married couple and play partners.  The committed relationship is first and foremost.

·         You hurt my spouse, physically, emotionally or mentally, and we’re through with you.  This is not a permanent arrangement – there are conditions.  Remember that.

Rules are created and implemented for a variety of reasons – most importantly that inviolate preservation of the committed relationship as the most important and sacred. Adherence to the agreed upon rules helps maintain the trust between the spouses or committed partners that makes lifestyle involvement possible.

Wifey -  I have been more of the rule follower than the rule maker...well.....I have to admit I like to push the limits & tap dance around the line.....let me tell you it has gotten me into      trouble more than once.  I really do try to follow all the rules we have set up....

Our rules have been modified over the years due to experiences we ahve had.  The first few years we had lots of rules....looking back all those does & don't kinda took the fun out of it.  So after several long conversations & many years we have come to a very doable agreement.

Big rules - No condom - No Sex!  No PDA!  No Drama!

There is one thing you should never forget as you enter this lifestyle and grow with your partner. Your spouse is your lifemate, your new friends are playmates. You have decided to build & spend your life with your spouse. Your playmates are for you to enjoy & play with. You should never try to get between your playmates, and you should never ever let your playmates get between you and your lifemate. Regarding your newfound friends as playmates, highlights the fun recreational activity that swinging is.

.... il commence par une "hey que pensez-vous? ......"

....it begins with a "hey what do you think?......"

 Wifey - I'm pretty sure I was the one who first mentioned the idea of swinging to my hubby.  It's been like 9 years ago..more lthan likely when we were in the sack having sex..or in the aftreglow. Not really sure why or what made me mention it..just did.  I  had previously dabbled in the lifestyle, so I kinda knew about it a little.  I thought it would be a fun & sexy way to meet new folks, have some naughty fun....watch my hubby do other chicks - which btw is hot!

We found a website - created a profile - sent our friend requests and before ya knew it we were meeting a couple for our first "Couples Date"  It was so exciting - we were like little kids - all gitty, we were nervous, yet excited.....  

 We met for dinner, and then  hung out in the parking lot for a few minutes saying goodbye.  I remember  the guy putting his hand on my lower back under my shirt  - I was thinking wow & at the same time I was a bit uncomforatable  - my hubby was right there - just felt odd.  He on the other hand had the other chick sitting on the tail gate standing between her legs sucking face... again HOT!

We spent lots of fun times with this couple - they are such a wonderful (in & outta the sack) couple - they spoiled us for sure!  After all this time - we would still do them!  Oh hell yes!!!

Hubby- Wow!  How do I explain those initial feelings as we took those first, excited, tentative steps into the lifestyle?  Butterflies causing jitters like those from when you lost your virginity.  The nervousness of that first kiss, knowing you were kissing someone else and your spouse/partner was watching.  The jealousy of watching your spouse pick out date clothes, knowing he/she was being uber-selective for the purpose of attracting someone else’s attention.

I remember when my wife first raised the question of the lifestyle with me.  We were in California, and I thought, “really?  Is this really happening?  Oh the hell yeah!!”  Not because she isn’t my life and love, but because how often do we get to peek through that locked door, once it’s closed and secured by love and commitment? 

Yes, excitement is the very first emotion that screams to the fore.  So much excitement, in fact, that it’s easy to overlook fundamental blocks upon which to build the playhouse you’re so eager to use with your soon-to-be new friends.  Don’t let the excitement cause you to put the cart ahead of the horse, as much fun as the lifestyle can bring – talking about limits before play can make a world of difference, all for the better!

Our first experience was dinner with a couple we’d found on a lifestyle-friendly website in the local area.  We hit it off right from the very beginning.  The excitement urging that first kiss was like busting your cherry all over again.  Leaning in for the taste of that first kiss… the jitters that she had to feel coming from my very core… Damn!

I’m not going to elaborate, but I will say that playing with a masseuse absolutely ROCKS!!

What made it all the more exciting, and still does to this day, is talking about the escapade with my wife afterwards.  The event may be over, but the excitement and fun lingers  - even better because the most important person in my life is sharing it with me.  THAT’S what the lifestyle can bring.  Oh, yeah!

balançoire de choses ...

...swing of things

 

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Swinging or (rarely) partner swapping is a non-monogamous behavior, in which singles or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity. Swinging can take place in a number of contexts, ranging from spontaneous sexual activity at informal gatherings of friends to planned regular social meetings to hooking up with like-minded people at a swingers' club. It can also involve Internet-based swinger social networking services online.

Swingers in the lifestyle engage in lots of different sexual activities with others for a variety of reasons. For many, an advantage is the increased quality, quantity and frequency of sex. Some people engage in swinging to add variety into their otherwise conventional sex lives or for curiosity. Some couples see swinging as a healthy outlet and means to strengthen their relationship. Others regard such activities as merely social and recreational interaction with others.

According to Terry Gould's The Lifestyle: a look at the erotic rites of swingers, swinging began among American Air Force pilots and their wives during World War II. The mortality rate of pilots was high, so, as Gould reports, a close bond arose between pilots that implied that pilot husbands would care for all the wives as their own—emotionally and sexually—if the husbands were away or lost. This is debatable, however, since it would have been unusual for wives to accompany their husbands on foreign tours. Though the origins of swinging are contested, it is assumed American swinging was practiced in some American military communities in the 1950s. By the time the Korean War ended, swinging had spread from the military to the suburbs. The media dubbed the phenomenon wife-swapping.
Ok - so there ya go - we all know that Wikipedia puts it out there.   Now that you know exactly what swinging is ( those of us who do it refer to it as being in the lifestyle) all about...or do ya?  Have you ever tried it out?  Oh come on - you know you have thought about it more than once....admit it...there has to have been a neighbor or a friend's spouse that you just wanted to fuck!  We all have- just some of us never share out thoughts or a better word... desires....I AM NOT ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE!

I on the other hand am going to blog about my (our) sexual adventures in the lifestyle.  Some good, some not so good, some right down naughty & nasty...not to mention kinda kinky.  I am gonna say & post whatever cums to mind, what I like, what I don't like, how I feel, how it feels...etc, etc, etc....if  I happen to offend you - get off my blog.   

btw....just so ya know.....the names have/will be changed in my blog - Discretion is a MUST!!!


ALWAYS PRACTICE SAFE SEX !!!!