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Turn on? Or turn off??

When it comes to sexual turn on's, men and women are very different. It is not a myth that women are attracted to a man who is comfortable with his emotions. It is also true that many women are on the hunt for an attractive man who knows how to treat a lady right! A man wants a lady in public and a slut in the bedroom.....Its pretty much the same in the lifestyle. Some couples look for playmates like them selves, while others are attracted to complete opposites.  Whatever sparks your trigger is a go as long as all are comfy. 

Some couples have a "take it for the team" plan - to each their own. I think at one time or another we have all "taken one for the team" ......some maybe more than once.  Its whatever works for you....you know later I am gonna dish about our "taking it for the team" experiences...LOL  Oh hell yes!


Considering that it only takes between ninety seconds and four minutes to decide if we're attracted to someone.  I have to admit, I can decide if I am into someone at first sight.  But what can I say...I am kinda easy like that.  lol  I do think that couples learn or maybe already know what their spouse is attracted to...I know my hubby knows the type I am looking to get fucked by as do I know his tastes.  But..every once in awhile you meet a couple who you may not have an instinct attraction to however after getting to know them you wanna do them in the worse way.....then there are those couples you just have to do, but after you do them.....mmmmmmm...not so into them....lol  Even though it seems that the lifestyle community is a small one...there are enough couples to go around.

We talk alot about what turns us on & turns us off...just talking about it makes us hot!  So....I decided to post our "Turn Ons' & "Turn Offs"...take note all you fuckable couples out there.....

Him - Ah hell.  No matter what I write in this section, I’m a-gonna catch hell from one side or the other.  There’s no winning in the Superbowl of public opinion when it comes to what excites a man and what puts the kibosh on the party.  So please take this as my disclaimer that the following is nothing more than the Get it Ons and Get the Hell Outs for me and noone else.  So if yall don’t like what ya read, I got two words for ya… Suck it!!

 

Since I’m a sunny day kinda fella, I’m gonna start with the turn ons, in no particular order…

1.       A woman that swallows!  Show me a man that says it don’t matter if his gal swallows and I’ll introduce you to a liar – to both you and himself.  There’s just something special about a woman that will suck you to the perfecting end… blowing your wad right past that oh so talented tongue.  That brings me to #2 on the list…

2.       Nothing like a woman who loves giving head.  If the time and place are right, just get into my pants, pull it out and get to blowin!  Take charge and leave nothing to doubt that you want that man.

3.       Sexy lingerie… nothing in the world like leaving something to the imagination – even if it’s next to nothing.  Sure there’s a time and place for the most beautiful naked woman, but until that moment arrives – even pasties on the nipples and a be-dazzled pussy can get a man’s juices flowing.  Oh yeah.

4.       Damnation buy I love a clean pussy… and not just hygienically clean, but clean shaved or waxed.  I prefer shaved personally or newly waxed.  I’ve got floss in the medicine cabinet, thanks.

5.       Here’s the most equal-opportunity Turn On of the list… the woman that lets me know that she wants me.  Playing shy has it’s time and place, in church or at the bowling alley.  At the club or house party, foreplay starts with crossing the threshold and walking through the door.  So don’t pretend you aren’t there for a reason.  If you want it, let him know in a very obvious way!

Now for the dark side of sexual play… the things than can take Oh Yeah to ah hell in no time at all…

1.       Sasquatch crotch – I mean seriously folks?  In this day and age, is it really necessary to tell ya that if you’re gonna play you need to put your best and CLEANEST foot forward.  That ain’t your spouse you’re bedding – that’s someone who has other lovely ladies to choose from.  I’m not even gonna discuss those ladies who need a facial shave. Eeyuck!!  And guys, for heaven’s sake, do you really have to make the lady identify the meat from the gristle?  Clean up to lay down, PLEASE!

2.       Reliance on liquid courage – We all like a drink now and again.  Hell, some of us even need a little something to take the edge off so that we can relax and “let the good times roll.”  But if we have to hold you up so you can make it to the playhouse, you may not be as comfortable playing as you would like to think.  If you’re so lit that you may puke, plan on an evening alone – or at least not with me.

3.       And for God’s sake, do NOT ask whether your partner’s parents are into oral sex (or any other kind for that matter).  Talk about a buzz kill… sheesh!!

4.       Strange odors – if you don’t smell right, do you REALLY expect me to dine at the “Y” or dip my wick in there?  Come on!  You know if something isn’t right down there. Take care of it, then come back.  Odds are we’ll still be there.

5.       And last on the list, but probably should have been first (were I putting this in any particular order), not respecting the relationship of the married couple or the committed couple.  You think you’re more important or have more influence over me than my wife – well, you’d best get to steppin.  ‘Cause I will shut you down in a New York minute!  And fellas… do not make the mistake and think you can play such a card to put yourself ahead of me with my wife.  Our relationship is the foundation of our involvement in the lifestyle.  You disrespect that relationship, and you best start shopping your wares elsewhere.  ‘Nuff said.

Her - So here is the thing...when you are in the lifestyle you are not looking for a replacement hubby/wifey - if you are then you need to get the fuck out of the lifestyle NOW! 

I could make a list of all my turn-ons but it would go on forever!  There is always something special about almost everyone I meet - some I just want to fuck more than others..hehe  I know for sure if someone is fuckable - guy or chick just by seeing them....of course they may not be into me - that's that sad part about the lifestyle - not everyone you are into shares your desire...oh well...move on...lol Its their smile, or sexy eyes; I am also a hands & forearm kinda gal...there has to be some sort of physical attraction to even spark my interest.

I wanna fuck you if...
~ you can make me laugh -  a brain and a sense of humor are real turn ons. A dim-witted dullard gets boring fast. I  want my fire lit by someone who can tell a good joke and can can challenge me every step of the way baby!

~you are not afraid to take charge - if you wanna throw me up against the wall and fuck the hell out of me - just say so....make a move - let me know ya wanna do me.  That's a turn on. No wimping around wondering if I am into it - just ask!

~you can be dominated - Oh yeah!  Surrender some of that power. I like to take control sometimes and feels sexy when a man is ready and willing to respond to all of my demands. And yes.....I am a freak!!!  So smile & take it - you will love it!!!

~you are fresh as a daisy - Personal hygiene is crucial. Shave. Shower. Man scape.  btw - love a partner who smells good..just sayin

~ more BIG turn ons 
.....talk  dirty to me while we are doing the dee
.....good kissers -ALL OVER
.....look at me when we are fucking-sometimes
.....loved to be undressed - slow & sexy
.....touch me & tease me - PLEASE!
.....interlock your fingers w/ me while we fuck  - OMG

No way in hell am I gonna fuck you if....
~I don't like ya!  If you are a drunken ass with bad breath.  If you slobber when you kiss or act like I owe it to you - Oh hell no!  If you smell funky (Ben Gay included) or if you insist on wearing your sock when we are having sex - we will finish before we start. And another thing - I hate comb overs -and hairy balls, dirty fingernails & boogers...just sayin. 

So now you know what turns us on & off - what are yours?? 
Care to share?????

      

 

quelle nuit putain .....

WAFN  - WOW!     WHAT A FUCKIN NIGHT!

 

Last night was “commando” night at the swingers club we frequent.  Yes, of course my hubby went commando, however I was dragging along “Aunt Flo” so my “who who “was covered – no one was going down below unless they wanted to floss their teeth with my tampon string – I know …gross…but its life!

I have to say there are nights we walk into the club and don’t know a sole, nor do we meet anyone – we just go up to one of the playrooms and do the nasty together which is always a guaranteed O…more like a hell of a lot of O’s!!!   Oh hell yes! Then there are those night like last night – WAFN!!!!!!

We had been invited to join in with another couple (who are a hoot in & out of the sack), they had a planned play date with another couple, but could always fit us in…so to speak LOL.  So…we called another set of friends  whom  hubby likes to do the lady…over and over and over …..she seems to be up for it  hehe…..she is HOT!  I have done her….which that is an awesome story for another time…..but let’s just say I am the best she has ever had!!!!!  LOL ……just sayin.

Ya know there are those times when if you really want something you just have to ask for it & accept the answer….well… I am somewhat of a voyeur – yes its true….I will admit it!  Well  we met a hot couple a few months back, not long after meeting them I told both of them I really wanted to watch them “do it”….have sex, fuck, whatever.  They just laughed me off…..so my little brain started thinking & I thought I would soooooo do a threesome with them!  …just saying.  So I ask & they said YES!  Yippee!!!

I have to tell you for as worldly and sexual as I think I am, I have never been in a threesome with another couple….matter of fact I don’t know if I have ever been in a threesome with two guys…..hmmmm…I am gonna have to work on that!   I didn’t really know what to expect or what I should or could do.  The lady is not really into chick, so I wasn’t sure what she would allow me to do………let me put it out there  - I am a lady who loves the ladies….I can eat pussy with the best of them…have been known to put a few men to shame…just sayin

 

After being somewhat sociable I got the wink & the nod and I knew the party was gonna start.  The tree of us headed up to the playrooms.   Really if you think about it  - it wasn’t a threesome…its was more like a 2.5some due to Aunt Flo hanging out below…I only think I took off was my shoes (great shoes by the way!) and a top…… I just kinda sat back to see how this would play out.

Like I said they are a very sexy couple, I had been with the fella  & enjoyed him thoroughly – so I knew this was going to be hot!  I watch a married couple enjoy each other’s bodies, the way his hand gently glided over her smooth, the sounds of her moaning while he fingers her – I could hear her enjoyment in her moans. I watched as his soft touch turned to hard & fast as if he could read her every move to know exactly what & how she wanted to be pleasured.

I watched as he licked her pussy, while playing with her gorgeous tits.  The expression on her face as she experienced the many stages of foreplay & orgasm amazed me, I have never really watch another person’s expressive enjoyment  -  the way her fingers tightened  & flexed as he fit the right spots, & the sound of her breathing , and moaning as she came over & over.   I went into this thinking it was going to be a somewhat of a sexual pleasurable free for all – lack of a better description…..however it was so much more,  I was truly moved by the connection this couple shared. You could feel the intensity of their relationship. I felt like I was intruding their the passion for each other; as if I was an invasion, can’t really say I was a distraction – I sucked some dick & some boobies – for the most part I just watched.

Isn’t it crazy that we go into something for one reason or another & come of out if with a completely different perspective?  Not sure if the three of us will ever do it again – I do know they are an awesome, sensual couple who are hot as hell!  I thank them both for allowing me a glimpse into their world.

 

Time to get back to the party……

At the bar area a couple of our friends had gathered & of course we welcomed and “newbies” …especially the ones that didn’t scare away easily….there have been a few.LOL  We only bite the first time….except for me I bite all the fuckin time…just sayin.

 

To make a long story short of small gathering of 6 soon turned to a gathering of 20 plus drunken over sexed people who just wanna have fun!  And we did!   In a wicked bad way!  Our night included a gal laying on the table while I sucked one of her boobies and yes I rubber her clit while her hubby fingered her till she squirted….I don’t mean just a little…this chick and squirt a stream across the room – no joke…..if you are gonna muff dive with this chick ya better bring some goggles & a snorkel!  Talk about bringing in the crowd..lol

After the water works were over I found myself with a cat of nine tails (red leather to boot) in my hand and lets sat on some mighty fine bare asses….damn!   I mean DAMN!!!!   …just sayin    Before I knew it there were 6 guys naked on the bar top while six women (myself included) sucked their dicks.  Every few minutes or so someone would  yell switch and all the gals would rotate to the dick to their right…..I made it almost all the way around to the end….however I did cheap a little….I was enjoying on falla’s dick a little longer than allowed – but what the hell – I am a rule bender  (notice I did not say rule breaker)  He was cute & he had a very nice dick that fit in my mouth perfect…..I should have gotten his name…just sayin  lol

One of the guys had a huge did – way bigger than my mouth could handle – I did my best – not sure my best was good enough….maybe someday I can try it again….and again at least until I get it right.  He did have a nice one – he told me did – but then don’t all guys think they have nice ones?  The question is – does he know how to use it?  I am thinking I may just want to find out for myself….a time or two  hehehe

 

As the evening starts to wind down & the crowd seems to be getting smaller I noticed a couple of newbie couples at the bar – hmmmm……well I decided to work my way over  to introduce myself & my gang.  Lol   What fun!   Is there anything better than the sight of a bald shinny head between your legs?  I think not – but since Aunt Flo was with me I had to behave….but I will let you know…just saying. 

Again….WAFN!!!!.........just sayin